A story is told about one of the greatest boxers to ever walk the face of the earth – Mike Tyson
As the story goes, it is said that his trainer asked him if he knew the difference between a hero and a coward
And after Mike Tyson had said what he thought, His trainer – Cus D’ Amato told him this
“You think you know the difference between a hero and a coward Mike?
Well, there is no difference between a hero and a coward in what they feel.
It is what they do that makes them different
The hero and the coward feel exactly the same, but you have to have the discipline to do what a hero does and to keep yourself from doing what a coward does”
This analogy applies to being strong while you’re hurting or being weak while you’re hurting.
But first, What does it mean to be strong?
Does it mean you don’t feel pain at all?
As humans, we all “feel, we all have emotional reactions, and how we express it differs from person to person
People you consider strong feel everything you do too when life comes at them.
What qualifies them as strong is their ability to act strong in spite of their feelings or whatever life is throwing at them
It is their ability to not only feel but also share it with those who can help them carry the burden even if it is just by listening to them
Knowing this allows them to be the strongest version of themselves
We know you’ve felt good after a good rant to a trusted friend
Not that ranting solved your problems but venting and having someone listen to you gives you that strength to carry on
Some people have mastered the art of being there for others even when they are going through difficult situations themselves
They don’t allow life’s problems to turn them into hateful vengeful and uncaring people
Being strong does not mean your feelings should not be expressed
You are allowed to cry, talk to a friend, be vulnerable to someone you trust
That isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of humanity.
We sometimes need to lean on someone and sometimes be there to hold someone else up.
Telling people to be strong when you are uncomfortable with their pain is not a way to show your strength or introduce them as theirs
Telling them to stop talking, crying, or expressing themselves is not a way to help them be strong(or help you be strong if you tell yourself that)
The key to fostering fortitude is realizing it’s possible to be simultaneously strong and hurt.
Even the most firmly rooted tree can break its branches in a storm.
Being strong does not mean you’re invincible. It just means you have the capacity to move through the pain and heal.
“Pain is not a sign of weakness, but bearing it alone is a choice to grow weak.” – Lori Deschene
We hope this helps
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