Kensho is a japanese term which means growth through pain or finding positivity in life’s challenges
When it comes to your personal growth, you know it’s all about building. Just like a house, You have a “plan” then lay the foundations. When you have done that, You can now focus on bringing it up, Roofing it, Make adjustment to your taste and slowly furnishing each room. This is also how personal growth works.One Key area or lets call it the “foundation” that needs to be addressed before you start building is Self-Awareness. It is on this rock you would build your church of personal development.The person you want to be doesn’t come out fully formed so you have to slowly build that out, one habit at a time by removing habits that you;ve learned over time that no longer serves you. When you take a good look at your life, expecially from years past. What areas can you see that needs improvement?
It is said that everything in nature serves a purpose and their is no lack. So it is in your life. Nature hates a vacuum so if you want to remove bad habits fom your life and grow, you have to find good ones. But it all starts from being Self aware enough to know whats no longer working even if in the past it had.
When it comes to personal growth, you have to do it yourself – by being focused on yourself.
Self Awareness: Imagine you walk into your room and everywhere is dark but you know there is power. What do you do? Without even thinking about it, your hand goes to where the switch for your light-bulb is and lights! You’ve done this so much you don’t even think about it, It is as if you are running on autopilot.
But if you go to friends house or you’re at a new hotel, You would have to be aware of your environment by looking for where the light switch is.
This can be likened to being self aware but when it comes to self awareness you’re not just shining a light in a dark room but in your life
What “toxic” ways have you used to cope in the past? Over time these has become an automatic response to trauma. We somehow program ourself to respond automatically rather that react independently in each situation life throws at us.
Some of these default settings are ways we used to cope as kids or young adults but over time they start having a net negative impact on our lives and the only way to know and curb them is by becoming self aware.
Self awareness is how you train yourself to not give a knee jerk reaction to things that are happening to you but rather evaluate them in the context of who you are now and who you want to be in the future.
When you start practicing this vital skill – Pausing, and reflecting before you react, you can differentiate when your response to a situation is appropriate or you will realize the opposite that some options that served you in the past are no longer in your best interests as a fully formed adult.
That my friend is one key area you can work on this year.
As you continually develope this skill, it is important not to judge yourself for having let your former “toxc ways of coping” outstay their welcome.
It is also important you don’t regret having used them in the past, since it is likely they did indeed get you through some difficult times.
The trick here is to simply see them as they are, be thankful for what they’ve helped you survive in the past, and with the clarity you are now experiencing from being more self aware, choose another way—a way that will serve you now and in the future.
We hope this helps you grow this year.
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