Do you want to lose weight? Make more money? Be physically active? Spend more time with your family? Or any goal you had at the beginning of the year – as per new year resolutions? (damn its October already)
What happened to those goals? If you failed or are still faltering you are not alone. Research shows that less than 8% of people actually follow through on goals and resolutions set at the beginning of the year.Somewhere along the way, most of us encounter obstacles that knocks us off our stride, life happens and we find ourselves feeling restless and unmotivated. This is a normal part of life as plans do not always go as planned. So if you’ve been knocked off your path for whatsoever reason, Some actions can help put a spring back in your step once you understand the root cause of a problem. This can help you finish the year strong
Below are 5 root causes of restlessness and lack of motivation, along with a few strategies to help you deal with them.
1. Doing What You Hate: When you wake up in the morning, are you pumped for the day? If you are not, chances are you don’t like what you are about to do(job), you don’t have a plan that excites you or worse you hate what you are about to do but you don’t have a choice. We all have two competing voices in our head. One encourages us and the other is our harshest critic. Growing up, we listened to the encouraging voice – This voice is imaginative, creative and full of confidence. It is the voice that said sleep and you slept, play and you played, cry and you cried. Basically this voice was your inner compass and you listened to it wholeheartedly. On the flip side we have mr critic. This voice is the one that was trained by society. This voice has been trained to tell you by society that following your dream and your heart is selfish and impossible.It tells you to play it safe. But you know deep down that this voice does not define you. It makes you feel small as you need to suppress your desires to please others. This internal battle is exhausting. So, you must be true to yourself all the time. Allow your inner self to guide you and accept the fact that you can’t please everyone.
2. Trying to do so much in so little time: If you try to accomplish so much in so little time, you are bound to procrastinate on end and not get started. The thought of doing anything can feel exhausting and this leads to lack of motivation to get started at all. For instance, if you’ve never execised before and decide to join fit fam. You’re more likely to build a sustainable habit when you start small like walking 20 min everyday and increasing from there. But if you go to the gym and decide to spend 1 hour, you’d probably be tooo sore to go the next day and that would lead to quitting the new habit altogether. The fact you quit is bound to make you unmotivated to try it again and you would continually feel restless when you look at the weight you were tying to shed
3. Asking the wrong question about life: When things are not going right we tend to start reevaluating our lives. However how we ask the question determines if we feel empowered or not.For instance, if you keep asking yourself “What went wrong?” you’d keep finding answers that are negative in perspective. Here’s a better way to ask yourself questions that are empowering in this scenario. Train yourself to identify what is right in your life. Try asking yourself, “What are positive outcomes of trying and failing at this?”
4. Am I good enough?: In life, we get to a stage where we stop believing in ourselves or believing we are good enough – this leads to feeling restless and unmotivated. There are several ways to deal with this. Think of something that makes you feel incredibly confident or other areas in life you have previously won at. Think of goals you’ve smashed in the past. When you accomplish a goal, doubt vanishes from your consciousness. When you remember how you felt when you accomplish a goal, the same thing happens too
Bonus tip: Start writing down all your “wins” and the good and genuine compliments people pay you. When you feel the blues, go look at what an awesome person others think you are and get to kicking
5. Not being prepared enough: You can suffer from lack of confidence and feel restless if you haven’t prepared sufficiently for a task at hand. Giving yourself ample time to prepare can fill you with confidence. But what if I prayed? God would still want you to do the task and prepare for him to work with something. Time spent practising for something is not time lost. These steps can help you stop feeling restless and unmotivated.
It does not matter if you set an unrealistic timeline or you face an unforeseen setback, recognize there is always something you can do about it.
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