Someone once asked a man how he was, He replied, “I’m going through hell!”

“Well, keep on going. That is no place to stop!” Said his friend

“If you seem to be going through the deep waters of physical anguish and cannot for the moment seem to gain the understanding which binds the strong man, keep on going—keep on clinging to Truth, and hear again the comforting, strengthening message, “My grace is sufficient for thee.” Gods, divine Love, is eternally sustaining His child, and will “bind the power of pain” as surely as the summer sun will melt the stubborn frost.” – John Randall Dunn

Life’s all  about problems and heartache – some we see coming and others. We only realise when we’re in the thick of it. Getting through these challenges is the beauty of life

But when everything seems to be going wrong, it feels like the end of the world and what we say to ourselves – Our interpretation of events can mean if we suffer more or suffer less.

We know better than most how these things can feel. That’s why we are arming you with 9 things to remember when it feels like you’re going through Hell.

1. This Too Shall Pass: This is Our Founders favourite quote. I heard it first from him before I started seeing and hearing it everywhere else. Sometimes, hard times feel like they’re going to last forever while time flies when you are having fun. But they both pass. It does not matter what aspect of life you’re facing challenges in –  work-related issues, financial problems, family problems, or any stressful situations, very few problems last forever. So constantly remind yourself, that things won’t be this bad forever.

2. Focus on what’s going right for you: At the end of your day, Like most humans, your mind is wired to remember better events that went wrong.That’s why when things are going wrong, it’s hard to recognize what is going right. It’s easy to screen out the good things and only focus on the bad things.When it feels like you’re going through shit, purposely looking for the positives in the situation is better than drowning in the negatives. If it’s a situation beyond your control, think of other places in your life with positives you’re grateful for.A good way to remember most of your wins is by keeping a “Victory Jar”(A notebook where you write down all your “achievements – big and small)..This helps because your mind does a better job of keeping scores of your losses than your wins.

3. “You Have Control Over…”: Most of what life throws at us is beyond our control. But there’s something that is – how we react. You should always remember that you have some control in any situation even if you’re not in complete control of the whole situation.One thing you can always control is your attitude and reaction. Focus on that instead of worrying and beating yourself up on things that are beyond your control

4. You Can Always Ask for Help: Asking for help can be very hard sometimes but it’s one of the best ways to deal in tough situations. Asking for help can mean calling a friend to  rant, telling people what you need if they offer to help. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. Don’t be afraid to call your friends and family and ask for help, whether it’s financial assistance, emotional support, or with making a life decision you’re scared of – Just choose wisely who you open up to. You can also write to us here if it is something we can help with It goes without saying that the person you’re reaching out to also has personal life issues and you should not result to emotional blackmail when you cannot be helped.

5. Will it matter in 5  years: Most of the problems you’re currently worrying about won’t matter five years. By reminding yourself of this fact, there’s hope. You understand that what’s wrong is only a tiny percentage of your actual life and that can bring in a ray of hope needed to weather the storm. Every problem has an expiration date.

6. You Can Handle This: A lack of confidence when faced with challenges can add to stress you’re already going through. One of the best things to remember is that you can handle tough situations. Even though you might feel angry, hurt, disappointed, or sad, it won’t kill you. You can get through it. Infact, You’ve gotten through stuff before. Think we’re lying check the next tip

7. You’ve Overcome Past Difficulties: One thing to remember when faced with challenges is that you’ve handled challenges successfully in the past.Think back on past challenges you’ve dealt with successfully. Remind yourself of all the past problems you’ve overcome even though at the time it felt like the end of the world. This will help you with the confidence needed in dealing with the current challenges.

8. Accept What’s Out of Your Control: “God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, the courage to change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” – The Serenity Prayer by Reinhold Neibuhr Many things that happen are not in your control. For example, You can’t change the past, another person’s behaviour, or a loved one’s health issues.Never waste time trying to force others to change or trying to make things be different if it’s not in your control. When you invest time and energy into trying to do things you can’t, it will cause you to feel more helpless, hopeless and exhausted. Acceptance is the path to resilience.

9. Take Care of Number One: When everything seems to be going wrong, the urge can be to start putting out fires immediately but you should take care of Number one –  You can take care of yourself in the following ways – Get plenty of rest ,Exercise more, Eat healthier, and spend some time doing leisure activities, drinking water and laughing. When you’re in tip top shape by taking better care of yourself you’ll be better equipped to deal with the inevitable challenges of Life.

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