“There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.” – Epictetus
When it comes to being happy, we sometimes ask the wrong questions. “What would make me happy?” Other times, we don’t even know why we are unhappy. There’s this icky feeling of loneliness most especially when it seems your world doesn’t make sense at all.
However, the right question you should be asking is “What do I care about?” because this, my friends, is most probably the root of your happiness(or unhappiness).
Maybe you’ve heard the cliche, that the key to happiness is not caring about anything, but if you ask me, I think that’s too extreme. We are humans, and are wired to care(unless you are a flesh eating psychopath which I am hoping you’re not). To be happy, we need to care, but choosing what to care about is the grey area where we learn to pitch our tent.That’s why we are sharing 6 things to stop caring about if you want to be happy. Most of us are guilty of caring too much about Number 6.
6 things to stop caring about if you want to be happy.
1. What other people(would) Think: Why the “would?”, because sometimes what other people “would” think is what stops us from doing most of the things that make us happy. This is why it is important that you ignore that noise and dance to your own tune, act childish, be crazy, do whatever you have to do to make a better YOU. Think less of what others think when making your own choices and decisions. It is your life and I hear it is unique and not eternal so use it well is what we are saying.
People would always say things (judge) no matter how you live your life and if you allow what they would say to make you second guess your every step, that’s a slippery slope to hell.
When you care too much about what others will say, you live your life for them and not yourself.
2. Your Past: Let’s face it, we’ve all at one point or the other made a mistake in the past that we regret. It’s a part and parcel of life – mistakes, but that’s how we learn through experience. Beating yourself up every now and again for things you’ve done in the past is a great way to keep relieving the pain. It’s time to move on and make better decisions. You have to accept that we all make mistakes and move on. Learn to forgive yourself more often. Caring too much about your past is a way to delay being happy.
3 Failure or Fear of Failure: Have you ever seen “Failure” or is your idea an “interpretation”? When we care too much about the F word(Not that other one… ), it can stop us from experiencing true happiness in the now. To achieve anything worthwhile, we have to go through a series of “failures” and that’s the only part to grow. If you keep doing things you are good at, you’d never fail. If you never fail, you’d never grow or find happiness accomplishing something you want.
Don’t let the fear of failure or failing stop you from being happy when it inevitably happens. Most times what you interpret as “failure” is just a learning curve.
4. What you lack: When you care too much about what you currently don’t have, You’re bringing more “lack” into your life. Energy flows where attention goes. If you’re grateful for what you do have, you are setting yourself up for more – that’s one of the benefits of gratitude. But focusing on what you don’t have is going to leave you in limbo of being sad and experiencing more of the same.
Focus more on the positives of what you have now and ignore the negatives of what you don’t have. Think about it, Why would you want to punish yourself with all the things you don’t have? That type of thinking will not serve you in any productive way at all
5. Caring about “What Ifs”: Here’s a way to lose sleep and all your sanity. Thinking “what ifs”. Not only is this bad for you, it robs you of your happiness and you rarely get anything worthwhile done “living in your head”
Truth is, No one can predict what would happen tomorrow, or next week or next year. And for most things you want to do, you can only see results after you have done it. When you’re not thinking “what ifs”, you can focus on getting things done.
This type of worrying (what ifs) is wasted energy and distracts you from
6. “I’ll be happy when “x” happens…”: I fall victim to this more times than not and I know how much it hurts waiting for something to happen before you can be happy. Think of it this way, when life throws you a curveball, it doesn’t wait for the “perfect” moment to try and ruin your mood.
Putting your life or happiness on hold until “something” happens is a perfect way to waste your life. You should not care too much about outcomes before you give yourself the permission to be happy. Not to sound cliche but “happiness is within”
As you can see, Happiness is not only tied to what you “care” about, but also what you don’t care about. Choose the right things to care about and watch how much happiness you allow into your life.
“If you want happiness for an hour — take a nap.’
If you want happiness for a day — go fishing.
If you want happiness for a year — inherit a fortune.
If you want happiness for a lifetime — help someone else.”
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