“Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” ~Buddha
How do you make friends?
Growing up, most of those who we call friends are schoolmates, classmates, family friends(from our parents) and friends of friends(mutuals). As kids, we didn’t mind sharing our friends with other friends. Infact, the more the merrier.
As we grew up, we started having friends we couldn’t share with other friends.. Our favorite people became ours to keep. Our fear? That our favorite friends could become closer to our other friends and leave us out of the picture.(it happens)
“We value our close friendships as special and meaningful, and it can feel threatening to see other people create special relationships with them, as well” – Lori Destine
However, we sometimes forget that when we connect people with others, it is an act of generosity. With the internet(and without), we’ve the opportunity to meet lots and lots of people throughout our lives, but a common link(a referral) can instantly turn strangers into friends.
And believe it or not, there’s a magic that happens when you bring two people with shared interest together – especially friendships that blossom into something very beautiful.
What we don’t realise is that when we connect people with shared interests, they can help each other reach new heights when it comes to pursuing their dreams, or better still when they fall in love(awwwn).
As you can see, the possibilities of this type of friendship are endless. Giving people the chance to open up to someone new can make all the difference to their world and their lives.
So look at your friends and ask yourself this question every once in a while. Who can you connect them with? Which friends do you have with a similar interests, similar world views, dreams, career paths, hobbies, passions… who are those you know with similar live stories or even people who can hit it off romantically(be careful with this one sha)
You don’t have to do much. A simple introduction like “ Hi, meet (insert name of friend), he loves Chelsea just like you do” and let them carry on from there. I read somewhere that this is a great way to introduce new people. Give a brief intro about them to the other person and vice versa, if you know they share something similar, even better. In corporate environments, you can send an introductory email(happens all the time on linkedIn), or even a tweet can introduce people you know who don’t know each other.
You just never know when you introduce two people, how they might expand each others’ worlds.
And if you’re scared of being left out, think of it like this. Who would want to leave an amazing person like you, who is so self assured, you’re helping them meet fun and interesting people. You’re seen as secure and self assured.
That said, Who do you think can benefit from what we do – giving like no one else and who do you know can partner with us to even do more of what we do?
Share this blog post with them.