“Time is not a thing—It’s a relationship.” —Steven Griffith
We all have 24 hours in a day yet lots of people say
“I don’t have enough time” when it comes to doing something they know would change their life
How many times have you used that as an excuse not to level up on something you think you should be doing?
This excuse trap of “not having time” often leads to a larger one that absolves us of all responsibilities – “it’s not my fault” – where dreams go to die. This is a dangerous mental cycle that many people unintentionally and often subconsciously turn on in their minds
If this is true for you, there’s good news.
You are about to learn 3 steps to defeat this “time trap” and take back control of your life.
“When you change the way you look at things, what you look at changes.” —Wayne Dyer
These steps are a better way to look at things and would aid your mindset shift in – time.
If you see it as a friend and as something in your control, it becomes just that – a friend to help you accomplish your dreams. This gives you the freedom to take full responsibility for what you do with your time
This view comes with unlearning how you’ve viewed time in the past(and how society has programmed you and me)… Time is usually a self-fulfilling prophecy of
“I never have enough time”
“Time no dey”
“If not for a time i would have”
“There’s no time”
We do this forgetting that time is a man-made construct. As if we are “bound” by time.
But is that true? – who allows you to do things – YOU or time?!
Time does not make decisions like when to wake up, eat, read, learn, or what you spend the day doing – YOU DO!
Time is an incredible and invaluable resource and is limited but the buck stops with you when it comes to deciding what you should do with your time – Distracted or goal-oriented.
If you had a billion dollars in time and you had the choice to spend it on anything – what would it be?
“Your time is yours, and it’s your responsibility. Your time comes from you, it’s a part of you, and you are not separate from it. It’s a natural gift of your life—an infinitely valuable resource here for you to become the best version of yourself. Feel grateful for your time and treasure it, and pay attention to where it is being used up.” – Stephen Griffith
We all get the same amount(24 hours). What you do with it is up to you and only you! Don’t let anyone(especially you) tell you different
If you want to get in shape, you have to give up time for the “gym” or a workout routine. If you want to learn a new skill, you have to give up the time you spend doing something else to study and learn.
You already use your 24 hours a day from the time you were born. So you have ingrained habits and patterns already.
But like that little economics class where we learned opportunity cost – if you have N20 and have to buy 5 sweets or 5 chewing gums, and each costs N20, the one you forgo is the “opportunity cost” – This is how it is with time.
By knowing what you want, you can better decide what to spend your time doing and what not to spend your time on.
Time is never to blame—it’s your choices and priorities with time. We can always make or find the time when something is our top priority
But you’re human and every now and again, life is going to get at you and you won’t be able to do what you should when you want. It happens, that’s life.
Taking responsibility for how your time is spent can have its own pressure – having to account for how you spend every minute can lead you to tell yourself feedbacks like “I’m fucking this up” when you have a bad day that looks unproductive or “I’m not good enough” when you take a break.
This is your mind trying to make you give up. Telling you, “you’d fail” but failure is the only route to success. Trying one more time is how you get better at anything and that won’t happen if you are not compassionate with yourself on your bad days.
Research shows that when we’re kind to ourselves and show ourselves compassion, we perform as we have healthy expectations of ourselves
“Once we show compassion to ourselves and tend to our mental and emotional needs, we can be in a positive and receptive space to reengage and learn from adversity, integrate new lessons, adjust our strategies and tactics, take full responsibility for our actions, and get back out there and accomplish our goals with an even higher level of confidence, resilience, power, and tools to succeed.” – Steven Griffith
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