1. THEY DO NOT DREAM BIG ENOUGH
Most goals are tiny goals that do not even excite the one planning the goal! The whole world is telling us we need to have “realistic” goals without even knowing what we are capable of and we just follow that advice blindly, limiting ourselves before we even start.
Your dreams should excite you! It doesn’t matter at all if it is achievable or not, the only thing that matters is that it is so big you cannot help but to work towards it.
2. THEY EXPECT THE DREAM TO GO FASTER.
They give up if it doesn’t. No one expects it to take a long time. In today’s world of fast internet, instant information and immediate rewards we all want things to go FAST!
This is why so many people quit! Losing 10lbs is easy at first, but after a month of exercising and realizing you still have only lost 2lbs it isn’t worth it anymore. Everything that is worth it will take its time, but it will also not matter how long it takes because it is worth it!
3. MANY DO NOT TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR LIVES
It is unbelievably easy to make excuses and to blame others. If it isn’t your fault then you couldn’t change it, meaning that you are but a victim of the world around you and you will not have to put in any work. The truth is: Living an awesome life is hard! If it were to just fall in your lap one day no one would do anything and everyone would have it.
A lack of responsibility causes you to become depressed with every single negative event.
Take responsibility for the way you feel, where you are in life and where you want to end up. It is better to believe everything is in your power than to believe nothing is.
4. THEY DO NOT BELIEVE IN THEIR OWN POWER.
People that end up on the street believe that, even if it is their responsibility, they couldn’t change it. All of these limiting thoughts are nothing more than thoughts that hold no truth but will ruin your life faster than anything else. Who told you, you can’t do away with addiction to alcohol, marijuana, womanising and all that terrible attitude that will not allow you to reach your altitude.
Believe that you can do it, even if you have no idea how. Believe you will figure it out and do something about it and you will gain control back of your life.
5. MANY UNDER COMMIT
Most people have a very skewed idea on the work/reward ratio of the world. In fact, most people believe it takes half the amount of work it actually will take or worse. It’s not surprising that those people are the ones that end up depressed because nothing they do works out.
Real commitment starts when you say that you will do it no matter how long it will take. Time should not even be a factor in the things you want to do. If you can change your attitude into a “whatever it takes” attitude, you will never run into the issue of being depressed for not getting what you want, because you will always get it!
6. THEY STAY WITH THE WRONG PEOPLE
The bible say in the book of Proverbs 13:20 “He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm”
Friends come and go, yet we all want to hold on so tightly to our current group that we do not even begin to realize how negative most of them are.
You have no excuse staying with the same negative people that only drag you down! In the end you will model all the people around you according to how much time you spend with them. That is why you are so much like your best friend and couples become more similar as time goes on.
7. THEY BELIEVE CHANGE IS SPECIFIC ONLY TO THE AREA THEY WISH TO CHANGE
Every change will change everything. You cannot expect to get a higher paying job when you still play video games for 8 hours a day, get drunk and high everyday. How will you build honest wealth as a salary earner when you gamble, womanise, known in all drinking joints in town, and follow expensive trends.
Right now, you have exactly what you deserve in life. You get exactly what you put into it. If you want to get a better life, then you have to change. Stop trying to find the specific reasons to change and focus instead on becoming the person that will naturally have the life you want.
It is not about getting the job, money or partner, but instead about becoming the person deservant of that job, that kind of money and such an amazing partner!