Any new relationship is always full of challenges. You’re getting to know someone, and you can’t know when something might happen to burst the bubble of your new romance.
In general, it’s fun learning all there is to know about someone who used to be a stranger. But sometimes, there will be signs that you shouldn’t take things further.
Everyone has their own quirks and opinions, and someone who’s a bit different isn’t a reason to run for the hills.
But it’s a major red flag if you find yourself compromising or feeling uncomfortable BEING around your partner.
Here are the 6 major Red Flags in a Relationship…
1. You justify their bad behaviour:
If you find yourself justifying away what he/she does or says, even though these feel wrong in your gut, then that’s a surefire red flag.
If they do something bad or say something that’s off, you may think, he/she is going through X.’ This is when you start making excuses for them.
2. They don’t talk through issues:
I’d say the one major red flag in a person’s behavior that may indicate that the relationship won’t work is the unwillingness to talk through issues, big or small. everyone in a relationship have disagreements.
That’s normal maybe not healthy. But it’s how you handle those disagreements that can really make or break things.
Does your partner walk away? Shut down? Place all the blame on you? Throw a tantrum? These are all red flags.
3. They’re constantly testing your boundaries:
Run from anyone who attempts to cross a boundary that you have set.They try to change the way you wear your hair or your clothes or anything else about you that feels like ‘you,’ and it makes you uncomfortable.
You have said you do not want to go further sexually and they insist.
a. You say you are not available on Sunday, but they push you to see them.
b. You are not ready to have them meet your family members or friends, but they push you.
c. They push you to date exclusively before you are ready.
d. They want to move in or get married or set up a bank account before you want.
4. They have a massive sense of entitlement:
When we see that someone feels entitled to us doing more for them than what is equal in a relationship, that’s a huge red flag that they are someone who uses people. Are they comfortable with using us? Because it just shows a real clear lack of care.
I see this a lot in marriages and dating relationships, where there’s always one person who’s feeding the needs of the other person.
One person is giving and giving and giving, and the other person gives one back. There’s an imbalance. And the other selfish person is typically fine with their needs being met.
5. Everything is about them:
One major red flag in relationships is when everyday life, events, conversations, and basic interactions are frequently about that person — where there’s constant manipulation and abuse of power over you.
For instance, you could confront the person you’re dating about something they did or said that hurt you.
Over time, you may will feel alone, constantly guilty, and you’ll even doubt your own self-confidence and self-worth. This is definitely a reason to distance yourself from the person you’re dating.
Narcissistic abuse is emotionally and psychologically damaging to their partners and most everyone they interact with.
6. They are overly critical about their previous partners:
This means that if you listen carefully to how your new lover describes his or her important previous relationships and how he or she speaks about their exes, you can learn a lot about how this person is likely to treat you.
If they could not see anyone before you realistically or make any of these relationships work, they are unlikely to be able to do it with you.