In the words of JOHN R. DOTY, M.D
“Can the best and brightest be blamed for not choosing to dedicate their lives to charitable or non-profit courses because they don’t want to live at the poverty level?!.
This is a question to ponder on, and while I appreciate his line of thought and opinion, I beg to differ.
Charity, borders down upon the mentality of both the giver and the receiver.
Charity is likened to a relationship…one that exists between the giver and the receiver. One gives, the other receives…..this is the picture seen readily, however the relationship that exists between the giver and the receiver goes beyond an exchange of perishable, tangible or physical goods and services. The receiver in turn gives back to the giver a sense of pride, joy, fulfilment, and happiness while such receiver gets a sense of worth, love, and affection. Such emotions that comes only from selfless giving and builds bonds not acquired via monetary prowess and might.
Giving should be a way of life that stems deep from a heart of gratitude, a humble spirit and a thankful mindset. A situation were the giver sees self as a part of the complex variation that exists in life. Were the giver yields self to fate, embracing the UNIQUE OPPORTUNITY TO NOT JUST CHANGE A LIFE, BUT ALSO DEPOSIT TO HIS/HER ACCOUNT IN THE BANK OF LIFE.
The receiver likewise holds the balance in the picture. Such person should and must first avoid holding self or beating self up or going on a self pity party. Rather turning such predicaments into the fuel that ignites a passion, a zeal, a determination to overturn such position and also render help to another thereby continuing the cycle.
Having a grateful heart and thankful attitude instead of AN ENTITLEMENT MENTALITY, OR LACK MENTALITY. Understanding that life is a coin and tables turn.
True giving comes from a person with a GRATEFUL disposition.
G- grateful for what life has posited under his or her care
R- resoluteness of mind to pursue the happiness of others without self gain
A- appreciation…..a full understanding of the delicate balance of life and the plight of others.
T- thoughtfulness…..putting others in consideration walking miles in the shoes of others.
E- esteem: denying self, laying aside pride, esteeming others higher than self and more deserving than self.
F- forgiving…..forgiving others who may be unappreciative or provocative. Having a clear mind always and without bias or undue interference
U- unbiased in deed and thought, friend of all, open to all
L- loving the unlovable, the unforgivable, and those that seek to exploit
L- learning…..not puffed up or with a closed mind, but rather open minded, reachable, teachable, approachable.