The Billion Dollar Secret Of Wealthy Men Poverty Taught Me
17/03/2020
Hygiene
17/03/2020
1. Live Your Life as a Single Person, First
Face the facts, you need to enjoy your life while you are single. This is a time in your life when you should take time to explore, travel if you can, find your place in the workforce, and work out your individual goals. Know yourself before you try to know someone else.
2. Get Financially Sound:
One of the worst things you could do to your future spouse is bringing a heavy load of debt into the marriage. Worse than this would be bringing bad financial habits into your marriage. There are tons of resources available with great information to help you grasp the importance of being financially sound. Don’t bring unnecessary burdens into your marriage. key word here is “unnecessary burdens” take note.
3. Never Stop Dating:
Do you remember the very first time you and your spouse, or future spouse, went on a date? Do you recall how your heart was beating out of your chest at some point during this date? Often times after the vows are exchanged, us men especially, tend to sit back on cruise control. Don’t do this! Celebrate her! Celebrate him!
Pursue your lover like he/she is still considering spending their life with you. When you love, respect, and pursue your spouse, you will reap unending rewards.
4. Be Prepared to Give 100% :
You have heard the cute little saying, “marriage is 50/50”, right? Well, that’s crap. It is not 50/50, in fact, it is more like, you give all you have and your spouse gives all they have, plus some. Marriage will chew you up and spit you out if you go into it thinking you can get by with giving half an effort. It does not work that way. which is why the number one is very important.
5. Never, Ever, Quit:
Don’t go into your marriage thinking ahead of time, “If he/she does this, I am out”. You must be open to forgiveness from the start. Regardless. No, I am not suggesting you tolerate any type of physical, mental, or verbal abuse, but, beyond these issues, learn to forgive. Show commitment to your future spouse.
6. Respect Your Spouse:
This should be in all bold, italicized, and all caps. Maybe you should consider having it tattooed across both arms and your chest. Respect in a relationship determines how severe, and how often, conflict will be in your relationship. Learn to respect yourself. When you can respect yourself, you can adequately respect your future spouse.
7. Get Your Priorities in Line:
If you are accustomed to hanging out with the guys six nights a week or hanging out with the girls in clubs on the weekend, it is time to change your priorities. If you think you can put yourself in these positions after saying “I Do”, you are setting yourself up for a failed relationship. Understand this; I am not saying you can no longer have fun, but you must respect your spouse when you take your vows. You should communicate your priorities well before setting a date for the big day. this works well with the number 6.
8. Realize People Change:
This one is tough to understand until you have been there and it especially applies if you are saying “I Do” at a young age. People change because of life’s circumstances, events, and other influences. Just know, your spouse, even yourself, will change over time. The key to success in your marriage is knowing ahead of time you will need to be able to adapt to a changing spouse, and a changing you, over the years.
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Never Stop Dating…dis one weak me oo
With the way marriages are crashing these days, even from people you least expect, one begins to wonder if people really didn’t take the aforementioned things into consideration or they are too lazy to put in efforts to make things work. From my understanding, I believe in marriage, you really need to keep being intentional, no one is perfect but if we are ready and willing to make it work, I believe it will.
The tips highlighted here are very helpful for both married and single. As a married man I realised the debt takes away the joys of marriage. After wedding, we were still owing the caterer, photographer and a relative. It wasn’t easy at all. It was not until my wife and I took drastic steps to pay most of the pressing debts that we began to smile at each other again. It was 8 months after wedding that we went on a date and that really added more spice to our union. Thank you @stillrise. I have seen other areas to improve upon as a husband.
Well said…but number 3 sound somehow lol
Truth be told, most of us do not consider a lot of things before taking the plunge. We forget that once you are married, that means, inadvertently, that you want to spend the rest of your life that person
Being financially independent, most times, is a plus for a good marriage. Scratching after the wedding jsnt a good sign at all
Always respect your partner is also another attribute in a good marriage. If you always respect your spouse, there’s nothing you both cannot conquer together. Respect is key in any marriage
Before you decide to get married, you must drop a lot of habits. O yes! Most habits need to go. If you club a lot together, and you start thinking about settling down, the frequency with which you visit the club needs to reduce. Yes, you can go to the club as a couple but once in a very long while
There are so many things to consider too. Like health wise, one has to be careful as regards their genotypes so as not to raise a child in vain. Although having a child as a stickler is inevitable but we can prevent or avoid it
The couple, before marriage must have saving skills. They must know how to save for the future. This helps a lot.
And before marriage, these partners must know how to pray together
Thanks
Seeking the guidance of God Almighty is what I personally consider to me the first step before saying Yes I do.
Nice content, the writer did a great job , let me also add some few point:
1. Communication is key to a long lasting relationship/marriage, If u are not clear about something please ask questions to avoid malice or unnecessary argument . Talk about turn offs (what he/she likes and don’t like)
2. Talk about how many kids u would love to have , not everyone have the same mind set of having too much kids and some don’t want to have at all.
3 intimacy between each other: Please talk about your love language
4. Spiritual Beliefs is another thing to talk about, if u are a Christian Pls talk about view of paying tithes or not , agreement on prayer and fasting Cos it’s meant to believe that during this period there should be no form of intimacy between partners, will he/ she be okay with that
5. Hygiene/cleanliness: this has cause a lot of quarrel in many homes today, some men/women can’t stand untidy environment while people can at least coupe, please know where u fall under and try to tolerate one another …… #StilllRise
More concerning hygiene
Home hygiene it pertains to the hygiene practices that prevent or minimize the spread of disease at home and other everyday settings such as social settings, public transport, the workplace, public places, etc.
Hygiene in a variety of settings plays an important role in preventing the spread of infectious diseases and the total spread of the epidemic E.g corona virus.
It includes procedures used in a variety of domestic situations such as hand hygiene, respiratory hygiene, food and water hygiene, general home hygiene (hygiene of environmental sites and surfaces), care of domestic animals, and home health care, the care of those who are at greater risk of infection.
Taking into consideration these keeping clean at measures is very helpful and keep your distance.
Spot on, thank you for this tips
Great tips
Communication
Trust
Helping out
Praying together
Being truthful
This all play a big role in every relationship.
👍👍👍👍✋
Thanks for the write-up, that change aspect is not easy to handle
This is one of the few times mistakes aren’t allowed. Getting married to the “right one” needs more than grace. You need both God and your ability to have patience. All that can be gotten by knowing the person, at least up to 80%.
Well, some people tend to forget that
Well stated points.
The “never stop dating” point is what a lot of couple need to look out for. Lots of us seem to forget the kind of effort we put in the relationship before they settle down and once they settle down, then they “settle down”, by relaxing in putting efforts as to doing those things that would make them work fine.
We truly should never stop dating.
May God help us